Maintaining a home as an autistic adult can feel like climbing a mountain every day, especially when you struggle with executive functioning disorder.
You’re not alone in this journey, and it’s okay to feel overwhelmed.
I’ve been there more times than I can count.
At my lowest, I resorted to using wooden cutlery and paper plates because I just couldn’t face the washing up.
Burnout was a constant companion, and the pressure to keep a perfect home only made things worse. But here’s the truth: perfection is not the goal. A livable, comfortable space is.
In this post, we’ll explore a comprehensive range of tips and strategies to help you manage your home. From creating routines and using technology to finding joy in your space, we’ve got you covered. Let’s dive in and make home maintenance a little bit easier.
Understanding Executive Functioning Disorder
Executive functioning disorder can make tasks like planning, organizing, and completing chores difficult. For many autistic adults, this translates into challenges in managing a home. From remembering to pay bills to keeping up with daily tasks, everything can feel like it’s piling up.
Creating a Routine
Routines are your best friend. Set specific times for daily tasks like cleaning, cooking, and laundry. Consistency is key. Use alarms or reminders on your phone to stay on track. You might feel resistant to a strict schedule, but flexibility within a routine can also work wonders. For instance, have a “morning routine” instead of exact times – do tasks in a specific order but allow for some variance.
Decluttering Regularly
Clutter can be incredibly overwhelming and trigger stress. Make it a habit to declutter regularly. Start small – maybe just a drawer or a corner of a room. Ask yourself if each item is something you need or love. If not, consider donating it or throwing it away. Remember, less clutter means less to clean and organize.
Using Visual Aids
Visual aids can be life-changing. Labels, charts, and picture-based instructions can remind you where things belong and how to complete tasks. Use color-coded systems for different tasks or areas of your home. For example, green stickers for items in the kitchen, blue for the bathroom, etc. This visual approach helps break down tasks into manageable steps.
Simplifying Cleaning
Cleaning doesn’t have to be a massive, daunting task. Break it into smaller, more manageable steps. Focus on one room or even one section of a room at a time. Keep cleaning supplies in each room to save time and effort. For example, have a small basket with dusting cloths, sprays, and a handheld vacuum in each main area.
Creating Zones
Organize your home into specific zones. Have dedicated areas for work, relaxation, hobbies, and sleeping. This helps keep things organized and reduces distractions. For instance, create a reading nook with all your books and comfy seating or a craft corner with all your supplies neatly stored.
Using Technology
Technology can be a huge help. Use apps for to-do lists, grocery shopping, and meal planning. Smart home devices can automate tasks like turning off lights, setting reminders, and even helping with meal prep. There are many apps designed specifically to help with organization and reminders.
Establishing a Relaxation Space
It’s crucial to have a calming area in your home where you can unwind. Fill it with things that soothe you, like soft lighting, comfortable seating, and sensory-friendly items. This can be your go-to space when you feel overwhelmed or just need a break from the chaos.
Involving Your Support Network
Don’t be afraid to ask for help. If you have friends, family, or support workers, lean on them for assistance with tasks that are particularly challenging. Sometimes, just having someone there to keep you company can make a big difference. If you don’t have a support network, consider reaching out to online communities for autistic adults.
Rewarding Yourself
Celebrate small victories. After completing a task, reward yourself with something you enjoy. Positive reinforcement can make maintaining your home feel more manageable and less like a chore.
Accepting Imperfection
Remember, imperfection is fine. Living in filth is not, but your home doesn’t need to look like a magazine spread. It’s about creating a space where you feel comfortable and at ease. Set realistic standards for yourself and understand that it’s okay if things aren’t perfect.
More Practical Tips
Meal Prep and Planning
Cooking can be a big hurdle. Simplify meal prep by planning your meals for the week. Make a shopping list based on your meal plan to avoid impulse buys and reduce waste. Batch cooking can save time and energy – cook a big batch of something and freeze portions for later. Use simple recipes with few ingredients to make cooking less daunting. Consider meal kit delivery services if you can afford them; they take the guesswork out of meal planning and prep.
Laundry Management
Laundry can pile up quickly. Set specific days for doing laundry. If you find it overwhelming, do smaller loads more frequently. Consider using a laundry service if it’s within your budget. Invest in a laundry sorter with compartments for different types of laundry (e.g., whites, colours, delicates) to make the process easier.
Managing Bills and Finances
Keeping track of bills and finances can be tough. Set up automatic payments for regular bills. Use a budgeting app to keep track of your spending and savings. Break down financial tasks into smaller steps and tackle one at a time. Schedule regular check-ins to review your finances and adjust your budget as needed.
Creating a Comfortable Environment
Your home should be a place of comfort. Invest in items that make you feel at ease, like soft blankets, noise-cancelling headphones, or blackout curtains for better sleep. Pay attention to sensory aspects – lighting, textures, and sounds can all impact how comfortable you feel in your space. Personalize your space with items that bring you joy, such as artwork, plants, or photos.
Handling Paperwork
Paperwork can quickly become overwhelming. Set up a filing system with labelled folders for important documents. Go through your mail regularly and discard or file items immediately. Consider going paperless where possible to reduce the amount of physical paperwork you need to manage. Use a document scanner app to digitize important papers and keep them organized on your computer.
Establishing Boundaries
If you live with others, establishing boundaries is crucial. Communicate your needs clearly and set boundaries to ensure you have the space and time you need for yourself. This can include setting aside quiet times, designating personal areas, or agreeing on cleaning responsibilities. Regularly check in with housemates to discuss and adjust boundaries as needed.
Taking Care of Yourself
Maintaining a home is not just about physical tasks; it’s also about emotional well-being. Practice self-care and seek emotional support when needed. Whether it’s through therapy, support groups, or talking to a friend, taking care of your mental health is essential. Develop a self-care routine that includes activities you enjoy and that help you relax and recharge.
Managing Sensory Overload
Sensory overload can make home maintenance challenging. Identify your sensory triggers and find ways to minimize them. For example, use noise-cancelling headphones if loud noises are a trigger, or opt for softer lighting if bright lights are overwhelming. Create a sensory toolkit with items that help you calm down, such as fidget toys, weighted blankets, or calming scents.
Finding Joy in Your Space
Finally, find joy in your space. Incorporate elements that make you happy – whether it’s art, plants, or music. Your home should be a reflection of you and a place where you feel safe and content. Spend time doing activities you love in your home, and make your space a true sanctuary.
Building Habits Over Time
Developing new habits takes time. Be patient with yourself and celebrate small steps towards your goals. Use habit-tracking apps or journals to monitor your progress and stay motivated. Remember that it’s okay to have setbacks; the important thing is to keep moving forward.
Leveraging Online Resources
There are many online resources available to help you manage your home. Look for blogs, forums, and social media groups where you can find tips and connect with others facing similar challenges. Online communities can provide support, encouragement, and practical advice.
Personal Reflection
Reflect on what works for you. Not every tip will suit everyone, and that’s okay. Take time to understand your unique needs and preferences. Experiment with different strategies and find what feels most comfortable and effective for you.
Final Thoughts
Living as an autistic adult comes with unique challenges, but it also brings unique strengths. By incorporating these home hacks, you can create a livable, comfortable, and supportive environment for yourself. Remember, you’re doing an amazing job. Perfection is not the goal – a happy, healthy you is. If you’re looking for more tips and a supportive community, enrol in my free 5-day blogging course by filling out the form below. Together, we can navigate these challenges and create a home that truly feels like yours.
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